It is not our circumstances, but how we deal with them that makes the difference. Generally speaking, people respond to life in one of four ways. First, there are “Reactors”. Think about pool balls on a table. What happens if you just leave them there? Nothing! Pool balls do not move until they are acted upon. Reactors are like that too. They take no initiative. Instead, they wait until they are hit by something and then they respond. This perceived lack of control over their circumstances frustrates them and so they go through life yelling at everyone and being mad about everything. Another approach is to “Conform”. These people do not feel that they are in control of their life either, but instead of getting angry (like the “Reactors”) they respond by blending in. They are like a stick in a stream. Rather than choosing their own direction, they just “go with the flow”. These people often feel like their li