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Dealing with Holiday Stress

Editor's Note:  This is not one of my regular articles.  Rather, it is one that I was asked to write for our local newspaper's holiday special.  For what it is worth....

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                It’s the most wonderful time of the year, or so the song says. 

                In reality, though, for many people, the Christmas season is stress-filled.  There is a lot of pressure to get to all the events, to buy just the right gifts, and to make memories that last a lifetime.  Even when families get along, spending time together can be difficult and it can be easy to miss the joy of the season.  With that in mind, here are a few simple tips to help your holidays run more smoothly.

                First, lower your expectations.  Do not buy into the notion that every Christmas must be the best Christmas ever.  If you decide that your family gathering must resemble a Hallmark movie, you will be disappointed.  Rather, determine to be happy with whatever happens.  Be flexible.  By keeping our expectations in check, we give ourselves a chance to enjoy just being together.

                Second, make sleep a priority.  Staying up too late and doing too many things is a recipe for disaster.  When we are tired, it is harder to control our emotions and we are much more easily annoyed.  Maintaining a regular sleep pattern and even taking a nap, will go a long way to dealing with others well.

                Third, look for the good.  In almost any circumstance, you can focus on what you like or what you do not like.  You can be joyful, or you can choose to be miserable.  Intentionally celebrating the good makes a huge difference.  Challenge yourself to create a list of things for which you are thankful.  It will train your brain to keep looking for them.

                Lastly, find some alone time.  Whether that means going for a walk, getting lost in a good book, or even just hiding in a quiet bedroom for a few minutes, it is important to find some time for yourself.  You do not have to do everything with everyone.  By maintaining some personal space, you will find that you enjoy the times together more.

                Granted, this list will not help everyone.  Unfortunately, some find themselves in very difficult circumstances.  We will deal with that in the next article.  

                However, for most people, family time can be a time of love, laughter, and fun.  It can be a great blessing.  

                It is even better when we plan ahead and choose to do it well.

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